The best way to ruin a marriage is to make your wife (or husband) feel as if she's (or he's) 2nd to others.
I am with Angela here. She feels powerless in her home life (she can't get your mom & sister to clean things as neat as she likes it), she doesn't feel like she's queen of her own castle. It sounds to me as if she's tired of having more than just you and your child in the house.
I dunno if she really feels this way. But if this happened to me, I would feel this way. I wouldn't ask for a 2nd child, but her asking for a 2nd child may be a "test" to see if you put her first or your family first. She got her answer.
Decide who has priority in your life. Yes, we should have compassion to help others in our life, but not at the detriment of our own livelihoods. If your mom & sister are hitting some hard times, of course, let them stay in your home, but have a date set on when they should stand on their own. Indefinitely is a long time.
What kind of marriage or relationship are you willing to generate with your wife (and child)? Ask her the same question. See if it's the same vision you both have and will commit to. If it is not the same vision, maybe it's time to part ways so you both can turn towards the life you want.
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