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Old 10-27-2008, 06:13 PM   #6 (permalink)
Chris Cade
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Originally Posted by ballaholic View Post
I don't think I could ever do that. I couldn't live knowing she was getting intimate with someone else. Would it be wrong for me to tell her to stop seeing him? subtly? directly? It's driving me nuts. I havn't slept yet.
Wrong? Not at all.

You'd probably learn a lot from the experience. And you'll probably learn that ultimatums don't work, and you'll only create more distance instead of intimacy with her.

Trying to control other people, especially to make ourselves feel less insecure, is almost always a failing proposition.
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