Hi C33 thanks for replying.
My father was badly treated, he had no real family, he lived with his uncle´s family, he was mistreated there, he had to work from an early age, he had basically no support in his life, he told me that in order for him to go on in life he had to adopt an angry mindset to overcome everything, instead of beign sad and depressed he choosed to be angry and pro active, its really sad.
If i want to overcome what he couldnt i must start with forgiving him, trully helping and supporting him because thats what he didnt get from his family in his childhood, i think that in this way i can show him that there is a better option to hate and anger, wich is compassion and fogiveness, beign hurt in life is bad and i cant heal myself completelly if my father is not healed either, i want to make the effort to heal him too, so that we can both live the rest of our lifes more happily than before.
The really sad thing is that he really doesnt want to hurts us, but he allways does, he doesnt realize what he is doing because he has so many years of beign hurt, i would hate myself if i commit the same mistake than him, not realizing what i do to my loved ones (and i hate to say it but he has influenced me negatively and i do that too but in less quantities), so ill make a trully concious effort on beign sincere with myself, and forgive, and leave hate and anger aside.  |