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tcbechtold · 10-24-2008, 07:23 AM

I believe it is a form of cheating. However, if both parties in a relationship agree that it is "okay" for the other to stimulate themselves independently using "porn" as their medium, then that is the essence of a relationship and communication. If it is going on without the other knowing about it, then there might be things missing in that particular relationship that should be addressed. If a partner's needs aren't being meant within the relationship or that partner's appetite is bigger than what the other partner is willing to provide, then just communicate openly if the relationship is at that level. If your "sneaking" around and you know in your gut you shouldn't be doing something, that's usually an indicator that it is wrong as in the case of utilizing porn inside a relationtship without your partner knowing, i.e., cheating. Consider the other person's feelings if they found out about the extra activities; inadequacy, hurt, low self-esteem or "cheated" our of your attention.

10-24-2008, 07:23 AM	#21 (permalink)
tcbechtold Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 2	Is it cheating?? I believe it is a form of cheating. However, if both parties in a relationship agree that it is "okay" for the other to stimulate themselves independently using "porn" as their medium, then that is the essence of a relationship and communication. If it is going on without the other knowing about it, then there might be things missing in that particular relationship that should be addressed. If a partner's needs aren't being meant within the relationship or that partner's appetite is bigger than what the other partner is willing to provide, then just communicate openly if the relationship is at that level. If your "sneaking" around and you know in your gut you shouldn't be doing something, that's usually an indicator that it is wrong as in the case of utilizing porn inside a relationtship without your partner knowing, i.e., cheating. Consider the other person's feelings if they found out about the extra activities; inadequacy, hurt, low self-esteem or "cheated" our of your attention.