sixx, if you have not seen it yet, check out my thread on
Negative affirmations for an idea on how to keep a positive focus in a negative situation.
Basically, you just use the word "not" in your affirmations to sidestep the ego's resistance. So, if your mother is slamming doors, etc, and you were to tell yourself "my mother is loving" and then visualize her being loving your ego will shut you down and tell you that is ridiculous. But, if you tell yourself "my mother is NOT loving" then you can go off into "because if my mother were loving she would be doing such-and-such" and easily go off into your visualization... or maybe a memory will be triggered about a time when your mother was loving... etc.