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Originally Posted by connoisuer  Career wise I don't need a job which only pays my bills...I want to contribute something(don't know what) back to someone(don't know who) so that I leave my mark here in this world. I think I will hold on to my job & parallely look out for work which I really like. There were times I feel that since I do not have any special skills or talents why not put all my money on luck(lotto sort of thing). |
I understand what you're feeling. The thing is that you can waste years of you life searching of for that perfect job and just not find it.
I do believe part of the problem is that we live in such a globalized, huge, impersonal type society. It's hard to make a difference big enough to be noticed by alot of people unless you're a celebrity already. One thing to think about is making a difference
locally. Maybe you won't end up with formal recognition or on the tv news, but a worker in a soup kitchen, social services program, animal shelter, or counselor *IS* very important to each person they serve.
I, too, felt empty working for the dehumanizing corporate machine. I am so much happier now : I ended up working for a very small business where everyone knows everyone else and nobody is treated like a number. We treat each other with respect. I can call the owner any time, and he'll listen to me. So one suggestion might be to try a job in a smaller workplace where the people there all value & care about each other?
My other solution was to let myself be drawn to a cause. In my case, one of my passions is the human-animal connection. I let fate bring me into becoming one of the people who formed a 501c3 horse rescue & education program. I continue to serve on their Board of Directors unpaid. Many days my dayjob is boring, but I feel like I am making a difference when I do things for the horse program. For example, we're set up to provide really low-cost horses to therapeutic riding programs (which in turn help handicapped and autistic people). I'll never be on TV news or change the entire world, but I am changing the "world" for those in my community.
The funny thing is that I didn't just wake up one day knowing what "my cause" really was. I just stopped trying so hard, and I let it develop around me. You can't keep waiting for the "right" opportunity and afraid to the things that are around you. Try a few things. See what piques your interest.
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My son is growing up & I can't afford to put more money on gaining skills at this age of 35. You know higher education for my son would be so much expensive.
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I believe you should work, even if only part-time, for right now. It will keep you busy and connected to people. It'll also give you a little buying power and independence which helps maintain feeling of self worth.
I don't believe you should be having to deal with both a mid-life crisis and panicking about paying for a child's college eventually. In the worst case scenario, he will take out student loans. It's more important that you focus on your own issues right now.
By the way, you are already leaving your mark on the world: you have a child you care a lot about. To him, you are the world.