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Originally Posted by evevera  I'm curious now, Rockchick26 what music are you into? lol |
Rock LOL new rock mostly,the stuff that teenagers listen to these days. Thats the problem,nobody my age likes it,and if they do,they have kids and cant go to concerts with me. But the teenagers dont want to hang out with someone old enough to be their mom! So,i end up going to most of my concerts alone.
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I don't know anyone who likes the same music I like, but I expect that and I'm used to it. It's also hard just to find anyone who likes anything I like, but I'm also a bit closed off so I don't reveal everything about myself either.
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I hear ya! I have the same problem,when i tell people what i'm into,they usually think i'm wierd. Thats why i've resorted to the internet,but i'm even having problems on here! lol
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Everyone's advice is good but you must be doing something that is driving people away Rockchick26. I admire that you try things and continue to battle through it. That's very courageous.
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Well,what choice do i have really...i refuse to hole myself up in my apartment and turn into a friendless hermit LOL If i have no plans on a Saturday night,i'll still go somewhere,even if it is to hang out at the bookstore,or Walmart.
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Do you think perhaps you might be coming off as a bit desperate? I mean you sound so frustrated about it that you probably do things that is self-sabotaging in the moment that you don't even realize. And these would very small things that no one would even be able to describe.
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Probably,but then when i try to tone it down a bit,that doesnt work either! I just dont know what to do anymore.
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How do you dress? Present yourself? You don't smell do you? =P Assuming you keep clean and look decent most of the time, when you go out, do you feel good or are you constantly worrying about things or wondering why no one ever comes up to you.
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LOL No i dont smell,i shower every day! I dress good (i get compliments on my clothes and my arm tattoo all the time,i've even gotten compliments on my hair),i dont think there is a problem with the way i look at all. I'm pretty sure its just that i'm shy and nervous and i stumble over my words a lot and i'm not very witty. So whenever i talk i usually come off as a ditzy giggling clingy follower (meaning i follow along with whatever the conversation is about,so basically i rely on others to start and carry them for me)
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Are you right with other areas of your life?
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pretty much,yeah! I'd like a new career and i'd like my dad to stop calling me every day,other than that,everything is awesome!
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I'm not an expert in this or anything, but just something you might want to try. If you're having too much emphasis on the 'friendship' ppl will see you as desperate and back away.
If you just act normal like you don't care if they want your friendship, you're just going to have a good time and if they interest you, you'll talk to them lol, might go better for you that way.
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I didnt think i emphasize on friendship,i mean when i try to find concert buddies online,thats all i say,i am not saying "i am looking for a best friend",i say "i want someone to hang out with at the show". I still get no takers. The thing is,this solution would probably work IF i could see these people again. But rarely do i ever see anyone twice that i meet. I just dont have the opportunities to be in the same place again where i know the same people will be there again too. I really need to have a different job or go to college or something,but,thats a whole nother issue LOL