Hot Alpha Female ~~ I love your handle!
I made a list of the things I like about him:
- conversations are thought-provoking
- he keeps up with local news and often knows the "back story" on current events
- he keeps up with local weather forecast
- he is a good mechanic and handyman
- he knows how to navigate local government
- he is entrepreneurial
- being able to help someone who has been having a hard time financially
- he has a good sense of style and fashion
- he notices when I look nice or make home improvements
- he is fun to shop with for big ticket items such as furniture
- he invites me to social events
- he challenges me
Then there are the not-so-good items, which I am putting in the negative to continue with my negative affirmations experiment:
- he doesn't have much tact
- he doesn't respect my conversational boundaries
- he doesn't get to the point quickly
- he's not financially stable
- he's not confident
- he's not usually positive
- he doesn't exit appropriately
- he doesn't allow me to pay attention to my kids
So where do I want to go with this? Well, ideally I would like to be able to enjoy all his good qualities in a mutually beneficial relationship while diminishing/transforming/setting boundaries around all his qualities I don't appreciate. Is that too much to ask?
Come to think of it, that's what I'd like to do in ALL my relationships...