Hey alle,
I was in a LDR for about a year... we were pretty in love and all that jazz, we met each other in person TWICE, a time period of 2 months being "really" together. (We lived on opposite side of the world).
It was VERY hard. Even though things were great and at times I thought 100% we would make it and it wasn't a big deal at all... well sad to say we're not a happy ending :P
The sad thing is, we'd probably still be together now if it wasn't for the distance, but things just didn't happen the way we had planned.
Just to make things clear, it wasn't the distance that initially broke us up, there were other issues/problems that probably stemmed from the distance. At the time I didn't really think so but looking back the distance DID have a major effect on why we ended.
What you mention about the cycles happened to us too and it did cause conflicts. Actually the times we faught the most was just BEFORE seeing one another and directly AFTER seeing one another. It was like 2 days of fighting followed by 2 days of loving.
Eventually it felt like we were just fighting a lot and always about stupid stuff. There were also trust issues and insecurities too before we broke up.
Anyway, this probably isn't a great story to be listening to, but I'm not saying at all that you won't make it. You can if you believe you can, at the same time you must understand that things aren't always what they seem when your love is so far away from you.
That was the hardest thing for me to deal with. Not really knowing what he was doing or thinking when we were fighting and him completely clamming up on me, it hurt me so much because it was like he knew he could hide behind the computer.
Just be confident in his love for you and don't take everything to heart, just accept that it won't be forever and if you need a break from each other every now and then, that's is perfectly healthy to do so. (probably best to do so).
GL
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