[sixx1984]

I have a similar situation but with my mother, as you can see from some of my previous threads. It's not exactly the same, but I can see where you are coming from.

I think if you are really truly unhappy and she cannot see that she is hurting you, then you really must distance yourself from her - physically. You must find a way to get some money behind you so you can take your cat and move out and get your own place. I know that can be very expensive, but maybe you can share with friends?

I think it would be a bad idea to work in the same office as your sister. I know you say you need a job, but surely there must be other work you can get. Even if it's something undesirable, like supermarket work, just to get you the cash, and then you can look around for something better.

It sounds like you've done what you can with your sister. Now you need to move on, and get a life away from her.

My situation is different in that I am looking at maybe moving back home after a few years away. I have quite a few mother issues - as in she can be quite an awful person towards me for no reason. Unfortunately, I don't have any other option - and believe me I've looked for other options. But at the end of the day, like with you, it's a money issue. It is going to be difficult to put myself back in that miserable position again, but it would only be temporarily while I get some cash behind me and then I'm getting the heck outta there again!

If you don't need to be at home/don't like being at home anymore, do all you can to find a way to leave. You may find that distancing yourself from her may improve your relationship with her? I know that when I lived at home myself and my mother really disliked each other, but when I left home, my relationship with my mother really improved and we now get along much better. Which is why I am worried about moving back home again, because we do not work well together under the same roof!

I wish you all the best, and hope it all works out for you.