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seo1 · 10-23-2008, 06:21 AM

I'm starting to scare myself a little bit.

I've met someone who I really feel a strong connection with on many levels of compatibility. I feel like we have developed a strong relationship over the time that we have known eachother. I have never felt so comfortable with anyone as I do with her.

However, I'm only 20 and I'm starting to feel some sort of parental instinct towards this woman (she's 27). I can't stop thinking about having babies with her and I have this strong urge to create space, make babies and provide for a family. When I see her around young children I can't stop thinking about what a wonderful mother and life partner she would make. These are very serious thoughts but I can't help having them.

These feelings strongly diverge from where I need to be and what I want to be working towards in my life(finishing college, grad school, becoming a professional etc.)

Is this just a natural intinct or the result of some subconscious desire to provide for what I felt was missing from my life as a child?

I have my head on straight but I don't know where these thoughts are coming from.

Anyone else ever experience something similar?

10-23-2008, 06:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
seo1 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 120	parental human instinct and relationships... help! I'm starting to scare myself a little bit. I've met someone who I really feel a strong connection with on many levels of compatibility. I feel like we have developed a strong relationship over the time that we have known eachother. I have never felt so comfortable with anyone as I do with her. However, I'm only 20 and I'm starting to feel some sort of parental instinct towards this woman (she's 27). I can't stop thinking about having babies with her and I have this strong urge to create space, make babies and provide for a family. When I see her around young children I can't stop thinking about what a wonderful mother and life partner she would make. These are very serious thoughts but I can't help having them. These feelings strongly diverge from where I need to be and what I want to be working towards in my life(finishing college, grad school, becoming a professional etc.) Is this just a natural intinct or the result of some subconscious desire to provide for what I felt was missing from my life as a child? I have my head on straight but I don't know where these thoughts are coming from. Anyone else ever experience something similar?