[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by TonyToneTone

When I meet people I try to be genuinely interested in what they have to say. People pick up on that and respond to it.

Well that must only work for some people,because i am a wonderful listener and i'm always smiling,so i don't get why it doesnt work for me. I just think people want more than someone who is interested in them,they want someone who THEY want to hang out with,who THEY think is cool. After i give it my all and show my interest in a new person,they always end up friends with the person who doesnt seem to care how interesting they are. Then i walk away feeling like i was too clingy like i wanted to be their friend more than they wanted me to be theirs.

Lastly, what kind of friends do you spend your time with now? Are they the kind of friends you enjoy spending time with?

Well,it's like this; the few friends i have,i value them and cherish them,so even if we dont have much in common,i still spend time with them. The kind of friends that i want to have are ones that like going to concerts,but the friends i have now either can't afford concerts or don't like the same music i do. So i have been trying to make friends online who ARE into the same bands as me,but like i said,they dont seem to want new friends. I've been trying for YEARS to find other people to go to concerts with but everyone who is into that has their own friends already and they feel wierd inviting an outsider to hang out with them. Either that or they think it's creepy that somebody online is trying to become their friend LOL I am very limited when it comes to meeting people in real life,i suppose thats my main problem.

Let's say I moved to a place and I knew ABSOLUTELY no one. What I would do is go to malls, clubs, bars, anywhere where there is people and start talking to as many people as I can. It's the same way I met my friends in Los Angeles that I am good friends with to this day. Just start talking. You will be surprised at how many people want to hang out with you.

Again,apparently that only works for some people LOL I have tried that,but i get wierd stares,or polite answers and then they go back to talking amongst themselves. Even at concerts,where everyone is there for the same reason,its obvious i'm alone so when i talk to people who are standing near me,they might reply and smile but theyre always there with someone so they dont want to befriend some clingon to their group.

Also, join some social networking organizations. Become part of some groups you like. You can easily make friends that way.

Yep,tried that. I was a member of a few Meetup groups that went to concerts,but either the groups didnt have enough people or they werent into the same music i was. I even personally emailed a few people in there and they never wrote back. I always end up feeling creepy,like i am that wierd person who shows up to events alone and expects to get invited into someone's friend circle.