Yes, that was much better, thank you!
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I have not yet found a logical reason to be non-judgemental towards others. I'm getting pretty good at faking it on the outside, but this is obviously not a long-term solution. Do you have any thoughts/suggestions?
Yes, sweetie, I do. You are starting with the outside when you need to start on the inside. Creating an outer facade only creates inner conflict and a lack of integrity, because your inner and outer selves are not aligned.
You can wait until you find a 'logical' reason not to be sarcastic/judgemental, or you can simply make a choice to drop it because it doesnít serve you and it doesnít serve others.
Sarcasm & judging others are both ways of protecting ourselves. Judgement is a way of lowering our expectations of others before they have a chance to disappoint us. Or it could be an easy way out of having to work things out with others, or see their perspective. Sarcasm is a competitive and defensive way of keeping the upper hand, but also keeping others at arm's length from us.
Hey, we all have inner and outer challenges to overcome in this life - Iím still learning too. Donít be too hard - on others or yourself ;-) Cultivate inner patience and giving the benefit of the doubt. Start without expectations of how it will manifest in your outer life. And practice connecting with your heart and your gut - itís not all about your Ďheadí. I know you can do it and that you have a good heart in there - give it a chance to express its good nature more often.
Perhaps sarcasm is something you learned from an important person or experience in your life, maybe itís the way you were treated when you opened up or were vulnerable. If you go to your root you will find the reason pertinent for you. Then let it go - by understanding its lesson for you, you will be free of it.
Tom, look at what you wrote in your last post:
Original post tc33 view post |
You know what, Love Angel? You're absolutely right, and you displayed an impressive amount of moral courage by confronting me on this issue. You are obviously a sincere, genuine and kind person whom I admire. I sincerely apologize for the dissonance I created earlier.
These words testify that you already
embody the characteristics you wish to exemplify - the ability to be kind, generous, sincere, to make amends, and acknowledge the good you see in others and openly express the good things that you feel! I'm pretty sure that you wrote these words because of something you felt. That 'feeling' is the inner presence of these characteristics. The words, or the 'outer', they come after and are in alignment, they 'flow' naturally from the inner - that is the process I'm talking about, so you have already experienced it.
And so sincerity, empathy, trust, etc. these are not skills you need to develop - you already have them innately. What you need to develop is your ability to ALLOW yourself to use them! Focus on them. You're really not that far from your goal!
Finally, it may help you to use visualization. There are many books out there with different ones, the main thing is visualizing white light entering your body or surrounding it. Or imagining a bright white globe in your heart, blazing like the sun. Here, I pulled out a book for you, A Practical Guide To Vibrational Medicine
by Richard Gerber, MD. On pgs. 92-94 is a good one.
Another great book is Jesse Reeder's Black Holes & Energy Pirates
. But don't delay the changes you can make starting today. You know enough already to make great transformations in your life.
Okay, that's all for now. But I will address your new constructive and supportive comments in another post, because I liked what you said. I will also address Shaden's
post because he raised good points. But for the next couple of days, I will take some time to rest.
Happy Holidays Everyone!