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amixa · 10-22-2008, 10:21 PM

ok i can't stand it anymore. i want to rip my older sister apart.
ever since i was little she's used me as her punching bag. last time i tried to show her how ridiculous she is i blew up at her, told her off and didn't speak to her for a year.

the dynamic in my house is also ridiculous. she favours my little sister and is moulding her to be like her. i've already lost any sort of influence over my little sister so i've given up trying to get her to be interested in anything i am. my older sister works for a corporation and is favoured by her coworkers/boss. she is even taking my much younger sister in to work with her meanwhile i sit at home trying to find a job because i recently had to quit mine because of the ridiculous politics in that place.

then yesterday she has the nerve to ask me to ask my boyfriend to set up a permanent system for her and her coworkers to get discounted coffee every week for the office (through his discount) and separate the coffee into 16 different bags. at first i said fine thinking ok now she owes us (as i'd have to go and pick up the coffee from the store that's out of my way). then i hear her talking about jobs available at the office and i mention hey i need one clearly and she just replies 'they'd eat you alive'. but they won't eat my little sister alive?

i'm so angry and she just doesn't see it. my parents were really stupid when we were growing up and at some point would tell her 'why can't you be more like her? (me)' and clearly has issues since. all her friends think i'm the ♥♥♥♥♥ for not being friendly to her when its honestly the other way around. and she hides it well from them.

i can't move out because i'm broke so this is always in my face. i'm also taking care of my old cat. how can i ever defeat this? i've been pushed around my whole life and (don't even bother asking me to ask my parents to step in because trust me they're useless) and i want to overcome her but i'm running out of options here.

PLEASE i really need someone's help i hate her so much. i've already taken the compassionate route and really it doesn't last that long when she thinks she doesn't need to do any self improvement in her life.

10-22-2008, 10:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
amixa Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 436	i'm tired of it ok i can't stand it anymore. i want to rip my older sister apart. ever since i was little she's used me as her punching bag. last time i tried to show her how ridiculous she is i blew up at her, told her off and didn't speak to her for a year. the dynamic in my house is also ridiculous. she favours my little sister and is moulding her to be like her. i've already lost any sort of influence over my little sister so i've given up trying to get her to be interested in anything i am. my older sister works for a corporation and is favoured by her coworkers/boss. she is even taking my much younger sister in to work with her meanwhile i sit at home trying to find a job because i recently had to quit mine because of the ridiculous politics in that place. then yesterday she has the nerve to ask me to ask my boyfriend to set up a permanent system for her and her coworkers to get discounted coffee every week for the office (through his discount) and separate the coffee into 16 different bags. at first i said fine thinking ok now she owes us (as i'd have to go and pick up the coffee from the store that's out of my way). then i hear her talking about jobs available at the office and i mention hey i need one clearly and she just replies 'they'd eat you alive'. but they won't eat my little sister alive? i'm so angry and she just doesn't see it. my parents were really stupid when we were growing up and at some point would tell her 'why can't you be more like her? (me)' and clearly has issues since. all her friends think i'm the ♥♥♥♥♥ for not being friendly to her when its honestly the other way around. and she hides it well from them. i can't move out because i'm broke so this is always in my face. i'm also taking care of my old cat. how can i ever defeat this? i've been pushed around my whole life and (don't even bother asking me to ask my parents to step in because trust me they're useless) and i want to overcome her but i'm running out of options here. PLEASE i really need someone's help i hate her so much. i've already taken the compassionate route and really it doesn't last that long when she thinks she doesn't need to do any self improvement in her life.