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TonyToneTone · 10-22-2008, 08:23 PM

Rockchick26, as someone who has a lot of friends, this is what I do.

When I meet people I try to be genuinely interested in what they have to say. People pick up on that and respond to it.

For the friends I have now, I allow them to live their lives as they see fit and think to myself how grateful I am to have them in my life. As you start to focus on how grateful you are for your friends, you will see other friends start to appear in your life. You are putting that good energy out there and it has to come back to you.

Lastly, what kind of friends do you spend your time with now? Are they the kind of friends you enjoy spending time with?

Let's say I moved to a place and I knew ABSOLUTELY no one. What I would do is go to malls, clubs, bars, anywhere where there is people and start talking to as many people as I can. It's the same way I met my friends in Los Angeles that I am good friends with to this day. Just start talking. You will be surprised at how many people want to hang out with you. Also, join some social networking organizations. Become part of some groups you like. You can easily make friends that way.

10-22-2008, 08:23 PM	#7 (permalink)
TonyToneTone Family Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,040	Rockchick26, as someone who has a lot of friends, this is what I do. When I meet people I try to be genuinely interested in what they have to say. People pick up on that and respond to it. For the friends I have now, I allow them to live their lives as they see fit and think to myself how grateful I am to have them in my life. As you start to focus on how grateful you are for your friends, you will see other friends start to appear in your life. You are putting that good energy out there and it has to come back to you. Lastly, what kind of friends do you spend your time with now? Are they the kind of friends you enjoy spending time with? Let's say I moved to a place and I knew ABSOLUTELY no one. What I would do is go to malls, clubs, bars, anywhere where there is people and start talking to as many people as I can. It's the same way I met my friends in Los Angeles that I am good friends with to this day. Just start talking. You will be surprised at how many people want to hang out with you. Also, join some social networking organizations. Become part of some groups you like. You can easily make friends that way. Last edited by TonyToneTone; 10-22-2008 at 08:26 PM.