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Originally Posted by SomeRandomGuy  This brings me to another point. Can cheating exist without both parties having entered into an agreement? I suspect there are many situations where lack of communication has left one party believing there has been an agreement on a topic, while the other party feels that no such agreement was ever made. If the party who believes there is no agreement does something to go against what the other party believes was agreed upon, is it considered cheating? |
I had to read this over a few times just to be sure I was getting all the agreements lined up.
I would have to say no, it isn't cheating. The person who 'broke' the unknown agreement had no way of knowing. If I
felt cheated in this situation, it would be because I was making an
assumption about what
should happen in a relationship, and that just spells trouble. I might feel hurt by his actions, but I wouldn't hold him responsible for that hurt. I would, however, take the opportunity right then and there to communicate that belief. You have to be CLEAR with your partner in matters like this, because we all come from different backgrounds, and something I might think is a "given" in a relationship might not be so for my S.O.
That being said, I think that there are some things which are generally held as taboo in a given culture, and to avoid an ouchy situation, I think it's best to communicate with your partner first before you venture out into those grey areas.
Did I get your question right, by the way?