I'm kind of in the same position. I don't make friends very easily, but I seem to be able to get along with about anybody and everybody. I just can't seem to connect with people very well. I've been "practicing" with a friend of mine who lives out of state via email, and I don't know if it's really working or not. I've tried to be more open with myself, and at the same time engage her a little a bit more, but it's hard to tell through email whether or not something like this is working. I've asked her for help on this subject too, and I was saying in a different thread, she had some good advice for me....that I really need to practice more. She said to just start talking with people, especially if you're in a situation where you're doing something you like or are interested in. New connections are never a bad thing (especially if you feel your old ones are stagnating), so it doesn't matter how many people might think you're weird, there's bound to be bunches of others who might think you're the coolest person in the world. I need to practice this more, for me it's just overcoming that "social anxiety" and stepping up and talking with people. I always have to remind myself that if I'm in a situation where I'm doing something I like, and if there are people around me, well then we've already got something in common. That's grounds for a conversation/new connection right there.
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