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Originally Posted by Squid  Is it cheating? Some women feel cheated when their partner views it. In my relationship the viewing of it by each of us is not hidden or covered up. We have agreed that it's not detrimental to our relationship but I don't think that's the case for a lot of people.
The most damaging thing that that it can do, for most relationships is cause the feeling of inferiority. Most women already feel like an unreasonable amount of pressure is placed on them to be attractive, adding a partner that watches pornography regularly sometimes seems to place a burden of competition on the sex life.
Many women that perform in it are beautiful, they have accentuated features and figures that regular women don't possess. Some men can begin to develop unrealistic expectations because of that. It's very hard to be with someone if you don't feel like you can live up to their fantasies or expectations.
I'm mainly addressing the feelings of women because I have never met a man that felt threatened by a woman viewing it. |
You have outlined some of the very real negative implications to a relationship of viewing porn. I am sure that many women have had their self esteem impacted greatly by porn. I also suspect that some men have had the same issues, since male porn stars tend to be more than the average man can measure up to (both in performance and physical attributes). I don't believe that porn in itself is inherently bad, but it can definitely have negative consequences in certain situations. I guess the question is, does making your partner feel bad about themselves equate with cheating?