Is it cheating? Maybe, if it cheats your spouse (and you) out of having a good life and a good relationship. It isn't 'wrong' in my mind because it's sexually 'immoral', but mainly because it is a powerful way of intentionally misdirecting brain chemistry in order to keep one from the scary business of being present.
I won't get into the deeper aspects of why I think routine viewing of porn is not a good idea for anyone. However, it's up to each partner to ultimately make that choice individually and each partner needs to refrain from persuading the other toward his or her own decision. After being confronted with a tearful spouse, a porn viewer often declares he or she will never do it again, but this decision is often made under conditions of heightened emotion (tears, anger, just trying to avoid the shame of being in this kind of argument) and is ill-reasoned. It becomes yet another contract/expectation one must fulfill. Therein lies the potential for deception. Why create that doorway? You can choose something that binds you together or you can choose to push away; porn is just one way, but there are thousands of ways to do that.
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