Thank you, LucidDreamer. Regarding your question:
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Originally Posted by Lucid Dreamer  I am still not sure how to go from here, though. Insight is useless without the tools to make changes, and if you have any tips on how to change this behaviour (more EFT?), it would be much appreciated. |
Thank you for posing that question. It sets the ground perfectly for strengthening the previous explanation.
Let's focus for a moment on this specific statement:
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Originally Posted by Lucid Dreamer I am still not sure how to go from here, though. |
It's quite possible (highly likely, actually!) that that question is being asked by the exact same "self" who needs a rock-solid definition of itself before it is willing to take the next step.
See how sneaky it is? And see how its contemplations actually feel like "you"?
What you're avoiding is the cold-water splash in the face that comes when you simply dive in and start working on something without allowing ourself to decide if we're ready or not.
You need the cold-water splash in the face!
Find something you need to do, ANYTHING, right this very moment, and just go start. Don't take stock of yourself, don't try to measure your energies to see if you have everything you need to get the job done, don't try to gauge whether "you've got it in you" to go work on it. These are the secret (and favorite) traps of the same level of self who loves to be stopped and paralyzed. Its questions are all disguises by which it fools you into thinking the "super-achiever" is the one asking the questions and assessing the situation.
The true super-achiever has no idea who he or she is when they are working. They are being made by the moment itself, and has no concern whatsoever for finding some way to define exactly who they are.
Just go and start right now, right this very moment. Go do it! But -- be aware of what it's like to do something without having a solid definition of yourself as you do it!
When you have that startling realization, you will suddenly realize that that part of yourself that was looking for a solid sense of identity before it was willing to start a project was the very thing keeping you locked in inaction!
Try it and post here what you discover!