Hi Sivodna,
Before you get surgery, there is something you absolutely
need to do: learn to love yourself exactly as you are (and exactly as you are not) right now. Why? Because if you don't, here is what will happen:
You blame your feelings of insecurity on your man boobs (that's the professional term
), so you have them removed. Then, you find out that you are still insecure, so it must be something else. Maybe your jaw line is too feminine, so let's get that fixed too. Next, your nose is in the wrong shape; then it's your ears... and before you know it, you'll look worse than Michael Jackson! I'm exagerrating a little, of course.
The rub is this: you'll
still feel insecure!
That's because your insecurity has
ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with how you look, so changing your body won't fix it.
Insecurity is nothing more than the (often unfounded) belief that you are somehow less worthy than everybody else because of flaws you perceive in yourself and not in others. But the others are just as imperfect as you are.
We all have our flaws, defects and shortcomings. Often too many to mention (I'll spare you my list). Nobody is perfect.
Learn to love everything and anything about yourself.
If after all that, you still feel it would be better to have your chest flattened, you can always seek out that surgeon.