 "Just Friends"
Okay, I need some advice because I am not sure what to do.
Back in College, I "hung out" with this girl for a few monthes. I would say date, but it wasn't that serious. At that point in my life, I generally wasn't looking for anything permanent. Anyways one night she was at a bar, and someone else kissed her. Basically, word got back to me and something had been lost in translation. I was pissed (and immature), so instead of talking about it with her, I just stopped talking to her all together. Total silent treatment.
Fast forward two years, I graduated and was visiting my college and I ran into her. Something inside me made me talk to her, anyways she tore me a new one. We talked it about it and hashed it out, both lamenting that this conversation didn't happen two years ago.
So a month later, she starts IMing me and Texting me and lets me know shes moving down to my area. In fact, she's moving 5 minutes away from where I live. So she moves down, we hang out more, and somewhere along the way I developed feelings for her. she's beautiful, smart, funny, and fun. She's the full package, and I'm pretty picky. However, I'm swamped with law school and work. Anyways, I let her know how I feel; and she gives me the "I'm torn. I like you a lot but... Let's just be friends".
Needless to say, I was crushed. I didn't exactly know how to approach the situation. It's actually the first time I have been flat out rejected, and maybe I'm an idiot but I didn't see it coming til after it happened, then hindsight was 20/20.
She wanted to know if we could still be friends and basically the only thing I could say was that I do want to be friends with her, but I don't think I do that right now. It will take time.
Anyways, I am not sure if thats a smart idea anyways. I mean I feel like being around her is just going to be a constant downer for me. Being stuck in the friend zone with a girl you really like is torture, but at the same time, I really like her.
I'm torn, and I need some advice, thanks
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