[CroMagna]

I have always been a very passive, quiet girl. People have definitely seized the opportunity to take advantage of that, including strangers, boyfriends, family members, teachers, police officers, employers, co-workers, and so-called friends, who have lashed out at me unprovoked or publicly ridiculed me. I have lost almost every single argument I have had. In middle school, high school, college, and even at my first job in the real world, I was bullied, mostly by urban blacks. I wish I had a wild, aggressive temper like the ghetto girls so I could put people in their place before they put me in mine, not to play offense, just defense. But that's unrealistic, I will never be "street", I don't even have the right accent. It doesn't come naturally.

I'm not sure how else to deal with controlling bullies. All I know how to do is just avoid people. Is that cowardly? I heard aggression is a learned behavior. Is there a way to learn aggression or at least fake an aggressive demeanor? I would love to learn that.