Your relationship with your parents is unique and only you can make this decision, but from what you write going back to your parents would mean a very difficult period.
My situation has similarities with yours: I was on the other side of the world and completely independent from my parents for a year and a half, now I'm back at their place to finish my studies. If I didn't have classes 8-6 plus homework every day, I can assure you I would have moved out. My parents do treat me like an adult (ie, I don't need permission to go out) but that's not a given. On top of all the constraints of living with other adults (bathroom schedule, bickering about who finished something and didn't replace it, or whose turn it is to clean the appartment), I don't have an equal-to-equal relationship with them as I would have with roommates. I think that's pretty natural.
I was going to post in the "long distance" thread that being away from your partner for a while can be an opportunity to grow on your own, to explore parts of your development you put on hold or haven't thought of because they didn't fit with the compromises of couple life. Going back to your parents can be quite infantilising and making that all the more difficult. On top of that, I assume your partner is going to want to visit during these 8 months... You can probably imagine intimacy is not going to be great under your parents' roof.
Honestly, I would look into ways of staying somewhere else for cheap. I understand the need to put money aside, but if it comes at the cost of fighting for everything you've achieved as an adult, it's not worth it. How about renting a room from more well-off siblings or friends? Sharing a place with flatmates? Working overtime, or getting a second job?
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