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Originally Posted by Radical  This is a real problem I have right now though. Ever since I failed to ask out this girl, every social interaction has left me feeling empty and even more alone. |
I just read this last thing you posted. Don't sit there and wallow in your own pity. There's really nothing to learn by sitting there depressed. There is no light at the end of the tunnel letting the pain churn over in your heart. One way to conquer this is to first of all release the connection between your identity and what you think/feel/do. Does your failure with the one girl in anyway reflect the reality of who you are? No. If you were to go out and approach 5 girls tonight, with 0% success rate, could you allow that to be what it is and go about your life? Learn to detach. Its an insider secret that when your emotions are NOT on the line in a conversation with a woman, she is going to TRUST you much more because she will sense your solid internal structure. You don't have to impress a woman or tell her any more than you want to. You can even create an alter-ego and go out just to have fun! Its OK not to talk about the normal things with a woman, jobs, school, politics..etc. In fact, if you are FREE enough to be a confident, funny, withholding man, it is going to ramp up the attraction even more.
Good luck.