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Originally Posted by aelle  Interface Leader, you are so right about the ptifall of omissing difficult conversations... "Well, we only have a week/2 days/a few hours together, let's not open that can of worms now"... We've managed to deal with it before (not easy!) but it's good to get a reminder.
Did you manage to have a fulfilled daily life without shutting your feelings down, though? I seem to go through cycles, at part of which I am very involved in the relationship and the rest of the world loses some of its interest, and other moments when I compartmentalize my life completely, having a great day to day life but keeping my love completely separate from that. Of course, he has cycles like these and we're not synchronized, which creates friction... Do you know what I mean? |
I do know what you mean. It can be frustrating when you both are at different levels of 'need'. I don't have a lot of advice, except for be understanding, and plan time together as well ~ make 'dates' if you like. And try and share what you are up to, rather than compartimalise it completely. E.g. if he went to a party he would take pictures of it on his cell-phone and email them to me. I worked in a call-centre at that time and would email him during slow periods with stories of silly calls.
I would also 'set projects' when he was off doing his own thing, and I was feeling lonely. For example, I filmed my then-home city of Cardiff, where he'd never been, showing all my favourite places and some of them landmarks.