You think your choices are:
1) Stick with your friends but be miserable.
2) Ditch your friends.
But you have a third option, and that is to get away from your friends for a period of time. Maybe you need a year off, or maybe two years off, or maybe five. There's nothing wrong with taking a break from friends. At some points in my life I've attracted some negative people to me, most likely because I'm so positive and I had to stop hanging out with them for a while until I got my life together.
Take a break from them. Get around people that will support you and feed you the kind of energy you need right now, and in a few years when you've done healing (or sooner) you can always reconcile with your friend if you want to. If at that time they don't want to talk to you anymore because you haven't spoken for a few years, then they aren't your friends.
Just my suggestion.
Ultimately if you don't consciously take the steps to slowly pull away from them and do your own thing, most likely you'll just manifest a situation where you lose it one day and get into a big screaming match with them, call them names and tell them to f-off. It's better to walk away nicely, so there's a chance of getting back into a friendship later if you want.
Don't be afraid to change friends. Chances are, they'd probably ditch you if the roles were reverse anyways.
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