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funchy · 10-18-2008, 03:08 AM

Congratulations to you, dominick!!!

I also like the idea of proposing and then seeing what she would like. Not all women like diamonds. An oversized diamond solitaire is becoming a cliche. And even if she might like diamonds, there are a bazillion cuts, shapes, and settings to choose from.

Be aware there is a massive mark-up on jewelry and diamonds. Then they give you an "appraisal" that says your new diamond ring is more than you paid... I guess to help you stomache the huge expenditure. Fine jewelry is generally not a good investment, either. Don't believe me -- check how many under-$1000 gold engagement rings are up for resale in antique & pawn shops.

Let me tell you a story: My grandmother was a practical lady. When she finally agreed to get married, grandfather asked her what kind of fancy ring she'd like for the engagement. She opted for something minimal and asked the money be used to buy a car. (In the 1930s a car was a big deal) Maybe not "romantic" but her pragmatic approach meant the family never once went in need of anything.

So who knows what your fiancee might like.

10-18-2008, 03:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
funchy Family Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: east coast, USA Posts: 1,628	Congratulations to you, dominick!!! I also like the idea of proposing and then seeing what she would like. Not all women like diamonds. An oversized diamond solitaire is becoming a cliche. And even if she might like diamonds, there are a bazillion cuts, shapes, and settings to choose from. Be aware there is a massive mark-up on jewelry and diamonds. Then they give you an "appraisal" that says your new diamond ring is more than you paid... I guess to help you stomache the huge expenditure. Fine jewelry is generally not a good investment, either. Don't believe me -- check how many under-$1000 gold engagement rings are up for resale in antique & pawn shops. Let me tell you a story: My grandmother was a practical lady. When she finally agreed to get married, grandfather asked her what kind of fancy ring she'd like for the engagement. She opted for something minimal and asked the money be used to buy a car. (In the 1930s a car was a big deal) Maybe not "romantic" but her pragmatic approach meant the family never once went in need of anything. So who knows what your fiancee might like.