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sarahsarahsarah11 · 10-17-2008, 02:00 PM

hey, I'm the one who originally posted this. Now, I would have / still do but not so much -- daydreams as well as daynightmares as well, like it seems ur saying.

For daydreams,
1. Figure out what need it is in the daydreams that is wanting to be fulfilled, and fulfill it. I.e. I would daydream about rescuing someone, so then I started working on making myself the kind of person who COULD rescue someone i.e. working out, or gaining the knowledge, etc. If I daydreamed about having more friends and deep conversations, I would stop daydreaming and just pick up my phone and call someone, preferably/usually my friends or someone I was thinking about becoming better friends with, but if none of them were available, a member of my family. Or I would just get up and get into my car and just drive to my friend's house.

For daynightmares
1. Facing fears. Sometimes forcibly. i.e. afraid of the dark... sometimes still am. But to get myself back into sleeping with the lights off, I would keep the lightswitch in my hand (I have a floor lamp with a switch that comes away from it) and just turn it off, and I would just lie there with my heart racing but I wouldn't give, even if I was just clutching the light switch.
2. If ur afraid of something, I feel the best way to deal with any fear is to face it head on. i.e. if you're afraid of snakes, go to the zoo and check them out and stand there and watch them even if it makes your skin crawl. i know a guy who was afraid of sharks, terrified, so he worked as lifeguard to shake the fear.

In general, gaining more presence. Understanding your place in life. Presence, being inthe now, i.e. do yoga, meditation, etc. I think however, do yoga at a yoga class, you gain more insight that way with a good teacher, even meditation maybe seek meditation groups etc.

In your particular case, I have to say that when I'm extremely stressed, i do have issues fighting off the daydreams / daynightmares, they do come back, perhaps with not the same intensity, but enough to make feel thrown off. I feel like it's my automatic stress response, and it's difficult to shake... though I've noticed that even when I'm stressed it's more daydreams than daynightmares the more my outlook on life has improved.

Deal with the stress that ur in right now. Change of weather/scenery can do amazing things, to be sure. Also really though, take a look at your outlook on life, if you hold any negative beliefs about anyone or anything, challenge them head on, the more stubborn you are about a negative belief you hold, the more it needs to be dealt with. Also look into all healing practices that are available to you, especially any kind of energetic healing practices i.e. reiki

This is a long, and constant process, but it's very rewarding. I've never been so present in my life, and I can tell you it's taken me a long time to be this way, and it just keeps going.

hope this helps!

10-17-2008, 02:00 PM	#19 (permalink)
sarahsarahsarah11 Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 37	daydreams / daynightmares hey, I'm the one who originally posted this. Now, I would have / still do but not so much -- daydreams as well as daynightmares as well, like it seems ur saying. For daydreams, 1. Figure out what need it is in the daydreams that is wanting to be fulfilled, and fulfill it. I.e. I would daydream about rescuing someone, so then I started working on making myself the kind of person who COULD rescue someone i.e. working out, or gaining the knowledge, etc. If I daydreamed about having more friends and deep conversations, I would stop daydreaming and just pick up my phone and call someone, preferably/usually my friends or someone I was thinking about becoming better friends with, but if none of them were available, a member of my family. Or I would just get up and get into my car and just drive to my friend's house. For daynightmares 1. Facing fears. Sometimes forcibly. i.e. afraid of the dark... sometimes still am. But to get myself back into sleeping with the lights off, I would keep the lightswitch in my hand (I have a floor lamp with a switch that comes away from it) and just turn it off, and I would just lie there with my heart racing but I wouldn't give, even if I was just clutching the light switch. 2. If ur afraid of something, I feel the best way to deal with any fear is to face it head on. i.e. if you're afraid of snakes, go to the zoo and check them out and stand there and watch them even if it makes your skin crawl. i know a guy who was afraid of sharks, terrified, so he worked as lifeguard to shake the fear. In general, gaining more presence. Understanding your place in life. Presence, being inthe now, i.e. do yoga, meditation, etc. I think however, do yoga at a yoga class, you gain more insight that way with a good teacher, even meditation maybe seek meditation groups etc. In your particular case, I have to say that when I'm extremely stressed, i do have issues fighting off the daydreams / daynightmares, they do come back, perhaps with not the same intensity, but enough to make feel thrown off. I feel like it's my automatic stress response, and it's difficult to shake... though I've noticed that even when I'm stressed it's more daydreams than daynightmares the more my outlook on life has improved. Deal with the stress that ur in right now. Change of weather/scenery can do amazing things, to be sure. Also really though, take a look at your outlook on life, if you hold any negative beliefs about anyone or anything, challenge them head on, the more stubborn you are about a negative belief you hold, the more it needs to be dealt with. Also look into all healing practices that are available to you, especially any kind of energetic healing practices i.e. reiki This is a long, and constant process, but it's very rewarding. I've never been so present in my life, and I can tell you it's taken me a long time to be this way, and it just keeps going. hope this helps!