Normally I would be the first to jump in and say "dump the loser", but it looks like there's more at work here.
It sounds like you definately love the guy, but he's having problems letting himself love anyone else. It could be because of his childhood, and I would say it is, but it was worsened by his "cheating ex-girlfriend" that he carries around with him everywhere now.
He's put a lock on his own heart so it won't get hurt again, but he can't see that it's withering away in the dark. Unless he opens up, it will wither away and die as he tries to protect it from getting hurt. The way he's spoken about his "new girlfriend" and his need for an open relationship is just another way for him to avoid connecting with another person.
Unfortunately your choice comes down to breaking it off, and casting him away, or to stay with him and try and break down his barriers while he resists you the whole way. You could be good together, but it would take both of you being willing, and while it sounds like you are very willing, he doesn't.
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