Let me make it clear that I am only expressing my opinion and, as I have no studies or other factual information to back up my statements, it can only be taken as my 2cents and nothing more. My comment about fear and control in domination is a personal opinion, and I apologize that I did not make that clear by first qualifying it as such. So, it cannot be said that, in general, "a person who enjoys being dominated etc. is getting in touch with fear" as this is my opinion and not something which has been tested and verified.
Next, while Deida did write at length about how masculinity and femininity are not gender-based, his work does define femininity as essentially submissive and masculinity as essentially dominant respective energies. He uses more eloquence in his definitions but this is a basic message. For all his seeming progressiveness, his work essentially fits the definition of traditional roles for masculine and feminine. Buttercat has proposed that men/masculine energy types are sexually excited by dominance or control and women/feminine types are sexually excited by being dominated. This also fits into a stereotypical gender role model. I feel that these models are incorrect as they do not adequately describe the population. Again, this is a personal opinion and not a tested fact.
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