[Elrond]

Originally Posted by pterodactyl

I wholeheartedly disagree with Buttercat. For the record, I'm sick of these terms 'masculine energy' and 'feminine energy'; it's a big load of David Deida mysticism and I'm tired of it, not only because it is false, simplistic and inane but also because it mainly seems to promote and serve traditional gender roles.

I've read parts of "The Way of the Superior Man" (misleading title, btw), and it has a looong disclaimer about how masculine energy is not supposed to be expressed by a specific gender and ditto with feminime energy. He says that both males and females can favor both of these energies predominantly or they can be 50-50. So he clearly does not ”promote and serve traditional gender roles.”

While there is nothing wrong with traditional gender roles if one chooses to employ them, they are not suited for everyone and it is irrational and unproductive to rely on models of sexuality or relationships that promote stereotypes and generalities.

David Deida surely does not promote this, nor does Buttercat Apacolypse in this thread.

I am tired of intertwining sexuality with control. At its highest, sex is about the expression of love, intimacy and creativity; at its basest, it's a mechanism for people to get in touch with their fears and hatred through dominating or being dominated. This is gender-independent.

Oh, so having a liking for being dominated or for dominating is always caused by underlying fear and hatred? And you talk about relying on models of sexuality and relationships that promotes stereotypes and generalities?