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Originally Posted by Angela  I find it most easy to connect when I approach a new person as if we were already good friends -- as if you were already in the kind of social relationship you'd like to be in. It may feel a little odd at first, but people respond very well if you lead them into feeling related.
I don't mean hugging them and being all, "Hey, Buddy!" Rather, just being a leader in greeting them feeling like you're glad to see each other, and expecting that things will go smoothly and pleasurably.
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I'll go ahead and try that. I do get a bit shy in a social situation when there's more then one person standing around though and I don't know them well.
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Originally Posted by Plato A practical piece of advice is to fall into conversation as you walk out of the class. I mean, you already know them, so it should be all gravy. |
I like that idea. Come to think of it, that's how I was invited to go along the few times I did go to lunch previously - I just happen to be talking to one of them when they went and they asked me if I was coming along. I'll try to be more conscious of seeking out someone to fall into a conversation after class.
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Also by spending time with people who have loads of connections you'll pick up their social butterfly behaviours.
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Yeah, some of them are amazing at how quickly they've racked up friends in their short times here compared to myself. I definitely could pick up from their behavior.