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Originally Posted by Axe  Hi, Tony tone tone. Thanks for starting this thread. I've never had a girl friend ( I'm in my early 20's now) and I wish I was in a relationship. My problem stems from years of negative conditioning. In fact, I'm a very introverted guy, I'd rather be myself than go out and make good friends. Thus, I have only a few friends ( male/female).
In fact, all this time I've been insecure coming out of this. It kinda feels good to come out of all that emotional baggage notwithstanding what the reception of other people of this forum is. |
Hey Axe, I use to be JUST like you. It just so happened that I changed much earlier in my life. You can do the same!!! And congratulations to you on stepping up and improving your life.
First, I would get a solid image of what you would like your life to be. Write it out:
"My Perfect Life"
and list EVERYTHING your perfect life has. Spend a few minutes every day seeing your perfect life. You've had years of negative conditioning and now it is time to train your brain for success.
Second, it is time to use the Law of Attraction in your favor. Write out another list:
"My Perfect Woman"
and list all of the qualities your new woman will have. REALLY BE SPECIFIC. List EVERYTHING as best you can. Hair, height, eye color, how she acts with you, when she will come into your life, how you guys feel when you're together, and so on. You can even take it one step further and put up a picture of your ideal woman. I've done this and great success with it.
Remember though, that like attracts like. So if you put up; confident, loving, happy, and you are feeling pissed off, ugly, upset, you are not in a vibrational match to attract (or keep when you attract her), your woman. So be what you would like to attract.
Now, this is training the inner part of you. Your outer world is simply a reflection of what is going on on the inside.
Now for the outer, remember how I asked you for your perfect life? How does Axe look? How does he behave? How does he talk?
I bring these questions up so you can start giving yourself actions to take to bridge the gap between your ideal you and your current life. If your perfect Axe is in shape and you are currently overweight, you could sign up at a gym or start doing some type of exercise to get into shape. If your perfect Axe dresses nice, but you currently don't, you could go to some nice clothing stores and try on some different outfits. If your perfect Axe is a hit with the ladies but you're not, you could go to some clubs and begin practicing striking up conversation with women. ALL women, not just ones you are attracted to. Talk to them like they are your best friends. Once you can keep a conversation going with a woman, you'll be more inclined to start new conversations and begin dating.
Also, you have a few friends and some are female. Have them hook you up with their friends or go with them to a bar and have them introduce you to women. One of my friends would do that and it always worked great.
Does this help at all? If you want, send me a PM with a picture of you and I will give you some tips to help.
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I'd rather be myself than go out and make good friends. Thus, I have only a few friends
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You can be yourself and have plenty of friends. You don't have to lose one by having the other.