Lana, your story reminds me in many ways of one I was in a few years ago. The absence of commitment, the sex without feelings, the decisions to be friends but not sticking with it, the other women. Not one of these things is a problem in itself if all people involved agree on them, but they very clearly aren't what you want. You are maintaining yourself in a situation of unhappiness and powerlessness (apparently the relationship is what he defines it to be, and you just follow). And since he knows about your feelings but still won't change his attitude, he is using you.
You have tried talking to him, he did not change. You do not have the power to build the relationship by yourself. Do what is in your power: walk out.
If your experience goes like mine, it will indeed be tough and heartbreaking, but it will also be a great learning experience. You will know for sure what you want out of future relationships and what boundaries to set so that they are based on mutual respect - be they commited or casual. It will hurt now but you will lay ground for a much happier future for yourself.
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