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Originally Posted by estudiant9  Shaving my head will greatly diminish my attractiveness, to say the least. (...) I know for sure that my self-esteem is going to nosedive for quite some time. |
I live with a shaved head as you can see
here. It for sure diminishes my attractiveness greatly (although a few guys find that totally sexy. But most of them find it just plain ugly, or weird, or unfeminine). However, my self-esteem is doing great. The point is that my self-esteem has nothing to do with how attractive others find me.
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My question in short is, in attempting to get my academic life on track and create a future for myself, am I just distracting myself by going through the fuss of changing my physical features and putting myself through needless and silly worries? Or do you think this is a legitimate and potentially effective way to go about a significant life change?
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Whether shaving your head is just distracting yourself or an important symbolic move in your development, that's a question only you can answer. It's up to you to decide what shaving your head means to you. If you think it's an effective way to show to yourself that you're making big changes, then it is so.
And worrying about what others think about your shaved head is, too, your decision. You can choose to spend energy on needless and silly worries and make your self-esteem dependent on how attractive others find you - or you can choose that your self-esteem does not depend on external factors.
Like our friend Jim would say, it's up to you
