It all has to do with how controlling a person naturally is. It could even depend on what mood a person is in, how much control they have over other aspects of their life at he moment, etc.
Also consider it depends on the partner you're with. A woman who doesn't feel she can trust the new wild-and-crazy boyfriend may not give up total control, but with a different man she may let her guard down and sometimes enjoy total surrender. Or a woman may notice her partner likes/dislikes when she takes control and she may adjust her role accordingly.
Also, look at all the examples of men who are into bondage which requires them to give up total control. Men who have stressful, powerful jobs may turn to S&M, so that for that brief time while woman completely orders him around, they can enjoy the surrender.
In short, I don't think it's fair to make such a sweeping generalization across the sexes.
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