And now, some thoughts for the original poster. You need to open your mind a little bit, and deprogram yourself from the lies that society has told you:
1 - Some people cheat
Some people cheat. Some guys cheat. Some girls cheat. Not all of them, but a fair bunch of them.
Some people have an internal moral compass that prevent them from cheating no matter what. Some guys have these morals, some girls have these morals. Many don't.
I've met girls with an astouding moral compass. My best friend's current girlfriend was attracted madly to him since the very beginning. But she totally refused to cheat on her boyfriend of that time. And my friend is a very cool guy, very phisically attractive and with good "game". He is as good as you can get a guy. Her boyfriend was much worse. But she didn't cheat.
Instead, she made my friend wait a little, she dumped her boyfriend and started going out with my friend. She didn't cheat at all, but the other guy lost the girl anyway.
So don't think that because you find a girl that have high morals, that you'll keep her no matter what.
Specifically, don't center your efforts in searching for some mirage of "loyal girl". You won't find it except by chance, because all girls will of course appear to be loyal (as guys do, of course). The only way to find if a girl is actually loyal is that you are so good of a catch that she could cheat on her bf with you, but she doesn't. But when you reach that level you won't care about loyalty anyway.
2 - People don't cheat if they are fulfilled
This is very true. If you fulfill all the emotional and physical needs of a girl, she has no reason to cheat. If that is the case, she'll cheat only if she's a freak.
But you need to learn how to handle women and how to properly fulfill them. And being desperate about not losing her is not exactly the best way to do this, if you get my drift.
You need to learn how to be a man: self-confident, being a challenge, leading the interaction, controlling your emotions, sexing her properly, and so on. At this moment you're very far away from that so you need to learn a lot.
3 - You shouldn't care anyway
This is the big A-HA!: you shouldn't put your self-esteem in the hands of other people, be it your girlfriend, your boss or the pope.
If you let her cheating bring you down, that means she has the power of stirring your emotions. You're emotionally dependant on her. And as you don't have control of your own emotions, you're not masculine enough, so you're less attractive to her eyes.
A masculine man, on his gf cheating, would first not lose controls of his emotions, and do one of these things:
a) dump her on the spot as TheColonel says and go find a better woman.
b) acknowledge to her that you know she's cheating, that you don't mind much, and that from that moment onwards you are both in an open relationship and that you will do the same, then immediately go sleep with several other women.
Of course to be able to successfully pull b), i.e. not bluffing, you need to know how to pickup girls, so most people here are recommending you a).
The option of:
c) forgiving her and act as if nothing happened
will only show her that you can let her get away with anything she wants. So first she'll lose attraction for you and later she'll do a bigger offense or dump you anyway, as TheColonel said.
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Ok, I hope this post is more understandable and less harsh than the previous ones. I hope the original poster gets a couple ideas from here. Regards,
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