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Originally Posted by marklang500  I didn't vote. I think that the control issue is a piece of the pie, but in it's absence, men still get sexually excited, and so do women.
This is making it sound as though there is a right way and a perverted way. People are different from the animal kingdom in a lot of ways. Rape is the ultimate expression of what you are talking about, and it is not sexually exciting for women. |
Ever heard of rape fantasies?
Wikipedia said a study showed that more than half of a sample of women admit to having rape fantasies. And that wasn't at all the first I heard. Notice, by the way, how it describes male rape fantasies before that to a great extent with statistics, but the female fantasies are downplayed with vaguer language and an excuse "some claim it's a way of getting over guilt". Hmm...
I'd say the distinction between rape and ravishing is love -- but the shiva-like forcefulness is the same in both.
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Tempered with love, although, I do agree that this is a subconcious piece of the pie, and that the "power dynamic" is a pretty good lable for it. But it is not always the ultimate foundation of sexual excitement. It is definately educational to try to distill sexual excitement down to the largest pie piece for each persons individual psyche!
Personally, my largest pie piece is the notion that I have the ability to provide ecstacy for someone else which in turn feeds my ecstacy. (perhaps that could be distilled down to make your point as well, huh....)
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