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Originally Posted by Michael Chui  You missed a third type of dude: the ones who give raging orgasms to your boyfriend.
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At first I thought this was an
ad hominem (and I'm not sure yet if it isn't, so please clarify). If you think my advice is wrong there are better ways than personal attacks to disprove it.
But then, I saw that in your livejournal you've written about this, and instead of attacking me, you've said interesting, and mostly true things:
From
Timbre of Tempests Quote:
Wulfen said this in response to someone else: There are two kind of dudes [...]
My immediate response was to highlight the existence of homosexuality. I don't even have to defend its naturalness or anything. It exists: this is undeniable. I can probably find you a gay porn video in 5 seconds if you want proof. Doesn't even need to be a lesbian one (which would be much more common, since there's a larger audience for it).
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Thus, the underlying PUA technique is that of Inner Game. Essentially a matter of confidence (though you shouldn't call it that; you aren't confident in yourself: you are yourself. Zen, anyone? Hell, public speaking, anyone? Same principles), it's merely a matter of being specific about that confidence: that you are an alpha male.
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In other words, the truth is that the vast majority of PUA techniques are actually highly gender-neutral, if you know how to look for it. The rest is a matter of sensuality and triggering the appropriate physical reactions: they exist in males just as much as females.
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I'm going offtopic, but you say here things that are really true: talking about psychological stuff with gay buddies, they've admitted me that in most gay guys relationships there's a dominant one, and a "target" as you say. In fact a buddy of mine that was not very successful on his gay pickups became much more successful once he got more confident and more bold in his approaches.
You seem to have a good grasp on pyschology and relationships, yet here you give the OP a (IMO) very very misguided advice on how to handle his crisis, and make what seem snide personal attacks on persons that give advice that opposes yours.
Can you clarify us your thoughs a bit?