Hey Bruce
I think I know where you are coming from. By compartmentalised life areas I suppose you mean life areas such as health, wealth, habits, career that aren't totally aligned with the 'real you'?
For me being at university, I have a close knit group of friends at university which means I am connecting with them on a constant basis which sort of brings me out of the Truth and Power corner of the triangle. Otherwise I am at home all the time learning about personal development and other solitary interests. I think Toastmasters has also helped me find friends who have similar mindsets as me. And I know you are a keen Toasty member so I don't see why you can't network with members in your clubs.
You said you have made friends in the past in your sub-optimal state and you don't want to invest in those relationshiops anymore because you don't want to improve relationships that you don't want anymore. I think that's because your friends might not be growing anymore in the direction that you are. Or they might have completely different values, beliefs and you know that changing their minds is totally out of the question. I know where you are coming from.
So maybe don't invest as much energy in the relationships since they might be pulling you down. I think some of my Toasty friends will be some long lasting ones because we have similar desires and interests. I've helped some of my Toasty friends by giving them some of my PD resources and recommending ones that I found to be excellent. So I guess my 2 cents would be go to places such as Toastmasters and find people who have similar interests and mindsets as you.
Yang
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