 theres a good reason not to
There's a good reason for a woman not to make the first move with a guy she is interested in.
If he is interested in you but could not make the first move then he has a fear of rejection. The only way he deals with that fear is to face it head on. That fear doesn't go away but morphs into fear of intimacy. He is basically insecure and will always hold back (in the relationship) when it comes to opening up to you about unflattering aspects of his personality, life, etc.
If he says yes but isn't interested in you then he is just seeing you as a free ride or an easy date or easy lay.
If you're not really interested in this guy but having a dry spell, then there's no harm in casually dating this guy.
Shy men are a problem because they won't always be frank and honest with you about things. That might mean he will stand you up rather than tell you he doesn't feel comfortable with some date you thought of and he seemed to agree to.
You will always have to take the lead in the relationship and you will may get tired of that. You may not feel you can not respect him since he is insecure.
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