You say some things that may certainly bear a lot of truth. Perhaps he is not jumping as quickly to divorce because of the drawbacks he anticipates. However, more than anything I don't want to feel like I am playing games. Sure I could try to behave more effectively in hopes of getting the outcome I desire, but I would be pretending then. I don't want to date other people- I want to be with my husband. I only wonder if I am blind to the fact that he may be giving me signs that I am not seeing that he doesn't want to be with me, even though he is fine with "dating me".
It seems to be a common opinion that "wearing your heart on your sleeve" is more perceived as a weakness, and that following your feelings and your heart rather than your rational thinking is very unwise. Unfortunately, I am the type that easily wears my heart on my sleeve- most likely to my own detriment.
Thanks for your response- I appreciate getting as many perspectives as I can.