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posted by Ellie
People with anxiety are "dramatic" and it's not something that can be switched off with just "happy tree friend thoughts".
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I'm not suggesting that you or anyone else spends their time with "happy tree friend thoughts". You can't focus on the good unless you know the bad. You can't look left unless you have looked right. You can't be up unless you've been down. You can't appreciate the mountain top unless you've seen the mountain bottom. All life has this duality and works in cycles.
You can't break the cycle until you change your thinking.
That being said, try this analogy. Let's say you're a miner looking for gold. In your mine you've got two piles. One pile is dirt and the other is gold. If you focus on the dirt, then you can't focus on the gold. It's just the way we work. You can only think one thought at a time. You can't think about gold and dirt at the same time.
If you think about it a great number of people look for the dirt in their life. They even rationalize and give reasons why they spend so much time obsessing and placing their attention on the dirt.
If this is your position, I've got to ask: Why the heck would you do something like that? Are you looking for attention? Do you want others to feel sorry for you?
These are challenging questions, but someone has to ask them.
My rational is that a great number of people focus on the dirt because there is an
emotional payoff. The "get something" by placing their attention on the dirt. "The drama" is a way to grab attention or have others feel sorry for them. Maybe it makes them feel loved because others empathize with them. I don't know.
Only you can answer this.
I'm not going to feel sorry for you because that doesn't help you; it only reinforces who you already are. And I'm not interested in that. I'm more interested in who you want to become...