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Jim11 · 10-11-2008, 05:03 AM

Zoom,

you won't seem desperate. women ask men out more than you think

I wouldn't come right out and say "can I have your number?". That could work fine, but there are some reasons why he could respond with "for what?" to that question, which might throw you off guard.

You could add the phone # thing into the example you mentioned.

zoom: "Hey, I've always thought you were a pretty interesting guy. We should definitely hang out sometime."
guy: "that sounds cool"
zoom: "ok, can have your #? I'll give you a call sometime"

random alternatives:
"hey, want to get together and do something sometime"
"would you be interested in hanging out sometime?"
"want to go to a movie this weekend?"
"hey, want to watch some election coverage together this weekend!". just kidding....

whatever seems good to you!

The shy approach (giving him your # without really knowing if he's interested) mentioned above could be used. The only problem with this is the anxiety of anticipating his call. It is clear you are nervous about the situation and unfortunately that puts the ball in his court. You'll go home and anticipate his call for an indefinite period of time. It is possible that if he's interested he could also be nervous and wait a week to call you! That being said, if you find this way easier, it seems like a valid approach.

Another less direct approach would be trying to get his email from another source. I've had people do it this way if it's not easy for them to approach me in person for whatever reason.

10-11-2008, 05:03 AM	#12 (permalink)
Jim11 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 213	Zoom, you won't seem desperate. women ask men out more than you think I wouldn't come right out and say "can I have your number?". That could work fine, but there are some reasons why he could respond with "for what?" to that question, which might throw you off guard. You could add the phone # thing into the example you mentioned. zoom: "Hey, I've always thought you were a pretty interesting guy. We should definitely hang out sometime." guy: "that sounds cool" zoom: "ok, can have your #? I'll give you a call sometime" random alternatives: "hey, want to get together and do something sometime" "would you be interested in hanging out sometime?" "want to go to a movie this weekend?" "hey, want to watch some election coverage together this weekend!". just kidding.... whatever seems good to you! The shy approach (giving him your # without really knowing if he's interested) mentioned above could be used. The only problem with this is the anxiety of anticipating his call. It is clear you are nervous about the situation and unfortunately that puts the ball in his court. You'll go home and anticipate his call for an indefinite period of time. It is possible that if he's interested he could also be nervous and wait a week to call you! That being said, if you find this way easier, it seems like a valid approach. Another less direct approach would be trying to get his email from another source. I've had people do it this way if it's not easy for them to approach me in person for whatever reason. Last edited by Jim11; 10-11-2008 at 05:12 AM.