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ellie · 10-10-2008, 11:29 PM

Hello,

Yet another update! Well still really happy. I'm definitely thinking of dropping kinder teaching, but that's ok because other areas of work are going great.

One of the reasons I didn't want to work in design anymore, is basically a lot of the people are money hungry, wankers. The last place (and many before that) I worked for screwed me over money wise and were basically not my type of people. It got to me so much that I could be taken advantage of and that I accepted what I was given, that it really effected me emotionally and mentally. So after that I said to myself, "never again" am I going to get screwed over and I don't want to really work for anyone else or sit next to someone else in an office. It's not worth it to my mental stability. So after that amazingly I was able to connect with a company that didn't screw me over, that actually were decent and gave me a fair hourly rate (allowed me to work from home) that I was happy with and also if I ever went over my hours would tell me to bill them for extra hours! Since then I am getting more and more clients like this, that are really lovely, happy to pay what I stipulate. I have yet to align with anyone since then that has tried to give me a crappy hourly rate and expect things for free. I think it was my ability to make a conscious decision to never be taken advantage of that really helped. Let me tell you, I never imagined I would ever be able to stipulate this hourly rate and well I am really happy with myself. I'm even getting sub contractors to help me out!!! Ha ha!

I also was able to say "no" for the first time to potential work, that I knew I wouldn't align well with. If you have read previous posts of mine, in the past I was too quick to say "yes" and it would get me into lots of trouble with jobs. Well what a feeling when I was able to say "no thanks"! I just knew afterwards that I made the right decision and also learnt I can say "no" and it wont hurt me. I was buzzing for hours after I said "no", that's for sure. It sure was a breakthrough!

So I really do believe you need to be honest with yourself and also make a conscious decision to what you want and what you never, ever want to happen again. Seems to be working a treat for me.

So if you are in a work situation, where you have been bullied, just say "no, this will never happen to me again", or "I will never take a job that offers this amount" etc. Say it out loud, believe, let it make you angry and you never know you might just see a change

10-10-2008, 11:29 PM	#69 (permalink)
ellie Family Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,432	Hello, Yet another update! Well still really happy. I'm definitely thinking of dropping kinder teaching, but that's ok because other areas of work are going great. One of the reasons I didn't want to work in design anymore, is basically a lot of the people are money hungry, wankers. The last place (and many before that) I worked for screwed me over money wise and were basically not my type of people. It got to me so much that I could be taken advantage of and that I accepted what I was given, that it really effected me emotionally and mentally. So after that I said to myself, "never again" am I going to get screwed over and I don't want to really work for anyone else or sit next to someone else in an office. It's not worth it to my mental stability. So after that amazingly I was able to connect with a company that didn't screw me over, that actually were decent and gave me a fair hourly rate (allowed me to work from home) that I was happy with and also if I ever went over my hours would tell me to bill them for extra hours! Since then I am getting more and more clients like this, that are really lovely, happy to pay what I stipulate. I have yet to align with anyone since then that has tried to give me a crappy hourly rate and expect things for free. I think it was my ability to make a conscious decision to never be taken advantage of that really helped. Let me tell you, I never imagined I would ever be able to stipulate this hourly rate and well I am really happy with myself. I'm even getting sub contractors to help me out!!! Ha ha! I also was able to say "no" for the first time to potential work, that I knew I wouldn't align well with. If you have read previous posts of mine, in the past I was too quick to say "yes" and it would get me into lots of trouble with jobs. Well what a feeling when I was able to say "no thanks"! I just knew afterwards that I made the right decision and also learnt I can say "no" and it wont hurt me. I was buzzing for hours after I said "no", that's for sure. It sure was a breakthrough! So I really do believe you need to be honest with yourself and also make a conscious decision to what you want and what you never, ever want to happen again. Seems to be working a treat for me. So if you are in a work situation, where you have been bullied, just say "no, this will never happen to me again", or "I will never take a job that offers this amount" etc. Say it out loud, believe, let it make you angry and you never know you might just see a change Last edited by ellie; 10-11-2008 at 01:57 AM.