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WilliWibald · 10-10-2008, 02:46 PM

How does it make you feel, when you see someone so close suffering? I guess you feel helpless and wish you had the power to help her, right?

Well, she can only do it herself, but you could awaken in her the sense, that it is doable and that it even becomes easy over time.

When I had some weight to lose I took the following steps.

1. I got upset about the fact, that I had to much fat on my body (and it was not even that much, but my friends noticed it and were very direct about it).

2. I recognized, that there must be a workable solution out there, since a lot of people could change the way their body is sculptured. But it seemed to me, that it cannot happen overnight. It takes a certain time.

3. So I grabbed all the information I could get (I read many books about loosing weight) and only took advice seriously that seemed congruent with what I already did know (that it takes time, that exercise is healthy, that people eating less processed foods looked healthier).

4. I tried to apply the information that I got. But I struggeld.

5. I learned from my mistakes and refined my strategies. Finally I found it easy to keep my weight or to even loose weight.

Some of the truths I discovered:
-exercise helps
-exercise does not need to be a big task (for loosing weight it's already enough to walk every day for more than 20 minutes) (i kept a list of walking time and tried to keep the 7day average as high as possible, but I never forced me to do it, just when it felt right)
-wholefoods are the real deal (I thought I ate wholefoods when 1 meal a day had brown rice in it - haha - there is so much more to learn - for example fruit juice that comes in a bottle is regarded a healthy thing, but it is not, it is no whole food, it's processed)
-supplements are not good for you
-it's essential to consume enough water (when you eat cooked foods) or to eat enough raw foods (I actually lost the weight on a mostly cooked diet but I think now going raw is the better way to get the water your body needs)
-cognitive therapy helps (just the idea that my thoughts do lead to my feelings and thus to my actions was new to my at that time)

So, I would give her empathy and help her see that there are solutions available and that she too can apply them.

10-10-2008, 02:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
WilliWibald Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 102	the steps i did take How does it make you feel, when you see someone so close suffering? I guess you feel helpless and wish you had the power to help her, right? Well, she can only do it herself, but you could awaken in her the sense, that it is doable and that it even becomes easy over time. When I had some weight to lose I took the following steps. 1. I got upset about the fact, that I had to much fat on my body (and it was not even that much, but my friends noticed it and were very direct about it). 2. I recognized, that there must be a workable solution out there, since a lot of people could change the way their body is sculptured. But it seemed to me, that it cannot happen overnight. It takes a certain time. 3. So I grabbed all the information I could get (I read many books about loosing weight) and only took advice seriously that seemed congruent with what I already did know (that it takes time, that exercise is healthy, that people eating less processed foods looked healthier). 4. I tried to apply the information that I got. But I struggeld. 5. I learned from my mistakes and refined my strategies. Finally I found it easy to keep my weight or to even loose weight. Some of the truths I discovered: -exercise helps -exercise does not need to be a big task (for loosing weight it's already enough to walk every day for more than 20 minutes) (i kept a list of walking time and tried to keep the 7day average as high as possible, but I never forced me to do it, just when it felt right) -wholefoods are the real deal (I thought I ate wholefoods when 1 meal a day had brown rice in it - haha - there is so much more to learn - for example fruit juice that comes in a bottle is regarded a healthy thing, but it is not, it is no whole food, it's processed) -supplements are not good for you -it's essential to consume enough water (when you eat cooked foods) or to eat enough raw foods (I actually lost the weight on a mostly cooked diet but I think now going raw is the better way to get the water your body needs) -cognitive therapy helps (just the idea that my thoughts do lead to my feelings and thus to my actions was new to my at that time) So, I would give her empathy and help her see that there are solutions available and that she too can apply them.