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Originally Posted by TheColonel  You seem determined to be the big loser in this. You may not even realize it.
I'm older too. And I've been in your shoes. It took me a couple of years to get my head together afterwards. But here's the distilled truth for you:
1 - She's gonna dump you.
2 - You will be in EVEN MORE PAIN.
3 - No matter what, at that point, she will never, ever come back to you.
Why? Because she will have lost respect for you. She'll see you as spineless and weak. |
That is the take home lesson.
Women want strength. That doesn't necessarily mean muscles, money, or power. Women can see a multitude of qualities as strength. Once she sees that she doesn't have to respect you consciously or not, you will look weak to her, you will cease to be attractive to her and she will leave.
There is a big difference between what people say and what they know reality to be. This is especially true with dating, sex, and romance. Don't go by what people say, go by what you see and don't use exceptions to rules as rationalizations to bullshit yourself.
Stories from your GF about some guy being cool for taking a cheating GF back without a peep is a bullshit exception.
Reality:
- Almost nobody likes being cheated on,
- almost everyone thinks it is a shitty thing to do to another person
- almost everyone thinks it isn't healthy to let it be done to you.