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Breaker · 10-09-2008, 04:58 PM

Hey Jessie

First of all I want to say that I really admire that you have the strenght and commitment to come here and say this, and more importantly to take action towards becomming a better person!!

Other than that, Whats allready been said about showing him the post would actually work wonders in my mind. Would make him understand why you react as you do in some situations..

But most important of all: DONT AVOID HIM!! Thats the absolute best way of making him loose feelings for you, which is what your trying to avoid in the first place!! You dont wanna come off as being cold towards him do you? Cause that might be what it could seem like to him if your avoiding him.

If you think that you are going to be off the hook, hysterical or whatever when you see him, chances are that you will. Because in this case you allready sat your own frame for the meeting.. makes sence?

But on the other hand, if you keep saying to yourself that its gonna be absolutely amazing seeing him again because you love this man so much and missed him, and that your not gonna fight him cause really... whats the point in that? If you do it this way, chances are that its gonna turn out just great (:

And as its allready been said.. If this dude cant accept your flaws(which are human!!) he does not desurve you and your better off without him.

Though he really SHOULD know that your struggeling with this and actually making an affort to change it.

10-09-2008, 04:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
Breaker Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 8	Hey Jessie First of all I want to say that I really admire that you have the strenght and commitment to come here and say this, and more importantly to take action towards becomming a better person!! Other than that, Whats allready been said about showing him the post would actually work wonders in my mind. Would make him understand why you react as you do in some situations.. But most important of all: DONT AVOID HIM!! Thats the absolute best way of making him loose feelings for you, which is what your trying to avoid in the first place!! You dont wanna come off as being cold towards him do you? Cause that might be what it could seem like to him if your avoiding him. If you think that you are going to be off the hook, hysterical or whatever when you see him, chances are that you will. Because in this case you allready sat your own frame for the meeting.. makes sence? But on the other hand, if you keep saying to yourself that its gonna be absolutely amazing seeing him again because you love this man so much and missed him, and that your not gonna fight him cause really... whats the point in that? If you do it this way, chances are that its gonna turn out just great (: And as its allready been said.. If this dude cant accept your flaws(which are human!!) he does not desurve you and your better off without him. Though he really SHOULD know that your struggeling with this and actually making an affort to change it.