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Whether you look at it from a mystical angle, a PD one ( self talk ), or psychological one ( Cognitive Therapy ) what you verbalize to yourself has a huge impact on your happiness.

If you say:

" It will be just **AWFUL** if we break up and I will **NEVER** be happy again!"

You will feel a lot worse than if you tell yourself:

"If we break up I will be in some pain for a while, I will be lonely, and I will have to work a little bit at feeling happy again, but I will get there after a time"

Which is more accurate to reality.

People make the bad things that happen in life feel worse than they are with the thoughts they choose to tell themselves.

Many people have seen this. Why do people do it?

Crying to get what we want is one of our oldest behavior patterns in our brains and our psychology. If something isn't to our liking, make a stink, and it will go away. Even the best of people never get that lesson entirely out of their heads with all areas of life.

Telling yourself exaggerated negative thoughts in bad situations, I believe, is merely the adult version and more sophisticated form of "making a stink" with the subconsious belief that doing so will "make it all better"

Hard to stop, for sure. When I am perfect I will give you detailed steps for how to do it :-)

In the meantime take it for what it is worth.

If you tell yourself the truth about your situation instead of some over dramatic exaggeration, you will still hurt, and you should, but you will come out of it sooner.